I think that the most difficult pattern to change would be submissive symmetry. I think it would be most difficult to change because usually in this case both parties have a hard time committing or taking charge so you will just go in circles. In complementary pattern at least one party is very able to make a decision and in competitive symmetry even though both parties want it their way, they still can make decisions. I do think that in a relationship competitive symmetry can be very damaging because even though you are both very quick to make decisions or you are both wanting to win at the same time and typically know one wants to back down or compromise with the other. This causes a lot of stress for people and you even see it in the work environment and it you are not willing to see eye to eye then you will just cause stress and it will wear on you. When the example is used of parent and child in the complementary pattern, yes I do believe it works really well and you are teaching your child but when it comes to two adults I think it can cause lower self esteem for the person in the one-down role. The person in the one-up role is always in charge and telling the other what to do but they are not giving them a say so. It can cause the person in the one-down role to become very quiet as well as reliant on the other person and will not know when to stand up for themselves.
I think that all the different patterns can have their positives and negatives in different situations and I do feel that most people fall into one of these patterns.
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