Week 12: Class DIscussion Q2

When it comes to forming a relationship with a person, whether romantic or friendship, I do believe that first impression of a person very important. I am not talking just what they are wearing or how they look, even though that can play a very small part, but the first conversation. I find that if the first conversation with a person, even if its only a few words, tells me if I will get along or bond with them. If eye contact is made and the conversation is easy I can tell if I can talk to that person and get close with them because if you feel awkward from the beginning it is very hard to get past that. I do think that Duck’s theory makes sense because most people create a relationship with the people they are around in close proximity such as at work, school, churches, ect because you usually are spending a lot of time with them in those places and you can connect and already have something in common. When it comes to preinteraction cues, yes most people are drawn to someone who is similar. If you see someone dressed in all black with crazy hair, and you are a more conservative type that wears no makeup, you usually will not feel an attraction to them and that’s because you would assume you have nothing in common. And once we do interact with someone you want to make sure that you can easily converse with that person and not feel forced. I know personally that I have been in situations where I have had to meet people and it felt totally forced and we had nothing in common so of course in that situation I would not form a bond and there for we would not hang out again.